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Mooo, you and this girl started talking and hangin out together for about a month now, yes? You are also dating her, has there been any physical contact between you two? I mean like serious kissing and or heavy petting?
The reason why I ask is... I WANT DETAILS!!!... no no, just funnin. The reason is because if you both are into each other then go for it and stay with her. Your friend is all pissed about it because he was with her for 4 years and even though he dumped her he still thiunks that she is his. He is also upset because you are his friend and he thinks that you shouldn't go near her. He's full of crap. He shouldn't have cheated on her if he was soooo into her. His lose.
But 1 word of advise to know if she is really interested in you and not on the rebound. Pay attention to all the conversations you two have, does she talk about her ex/your friend an exagerated amount of does he just come up in conversations on occassion? When she does talk about him, is it in a angry sort of way or is it a bit of both? Reason is that men and women will talk about their ex in a bad angry way but at the same time in a kinda loving way when there's something still there, as in feelings for them. Women will talk about them more than men. Men are dogs and bad mouth all ex girlfriends no matter what. Then they get all huffy and pissed when they see them with someone else, especially a friend. But women are different, they will talk about them in a bad way mainly when they get cheated on by their ex boyfriends and will be very very harsh as to the way they talk about them. If they just get dumped they are pissy about it and will bad mouth them but then they get all emotional and break down a bit (crying and such). Some, even if they were cheated on will get emotional, especially when it was a long term relationship. But they quickly go into pissed off mode again.
Ladies chime in whenever...
Now if she is talking alot about him then she probably is still holding feelings toward him, but that in a way is to be expected. She was with this guy for 4 years. But if she has alot of anger toward him in all or most of her conversations about him then he's toast and you shouldn't worry. If she tends to talk alot about the good time they had and in these conversations she tends to drift off sort of starring into space. Then she is just on a rebound.
Now this next part may sound vulgar to many but it IS very true. if they were physical and I do mean PHYSICAL, then if you and her are getting to that point and it come to that. You better do her like Superman on Viagra. In every way every style every everything. Then she will be saying, "EX? EX who?" Hell she won't even remember his name.
O.K. fun's over... but you'ld be suprised as to how that works every time. Then ya better keep it that way.
If you think that you could be with this girl for a long time, then plain and simply treat her with respect, make her feel wanted loved and listen... listen to everything she says. Pay attention, to her body language, her movements rite now dictate how she wants to be treated. She is gonna be tellin you alot with her looks, her movements and even when she tells you certain things you're gonna have to really listen to see if she is saying something else at the same time. Not always is it what they say that is what they want. Confused yet? Welcome to the world of understanding a woman. Especially a woman that has been emotionally hurt in a long term relationship.
The reason why I ask is... I WANT DETAILS!!!... no no, just funnin. The reason is because if you both are into each other then go for it and stay with her. Your friend is all pissed about it because he was with her for 4 years and even though he dumped her he still thiunks that she is his. He is also upset because you are his friend and he thinks that you shouldn't go near her. He's full of crap. He shouldn't have cheated on her if he was soooo into her. His lose.
But 1 word of advise to know if she is really interested in you and not on the rebound. Pay attention to all the conversations you two have, does she talk about her ex/your friend an exagerated amount of does he just come up in conversations on occassion? When she does talk about him, is it in a angry sort of way or is it a bit of both? Reason is that men and women will talk about their ex in a bad angry way but at the same time in a kinda loving way when there's something still there, as in feelings for them. Women will talk about them more than men. Men are dogs and bad mouth all ex girlfriends no matter what. Then they get all huffy and pissed when they see them with someone else, especially a friend. But women are different, they will talk about them in a bad way mainly when they get cheated on by their ex boyfriends and will be very very harsh as to the way they talk about them. If they just get dumped they are pissy about it and will bad mouth them but then they get all emotional and break down a bit (crying and such). Some, even if they were cheated on will get emotional, especially when it was a long term relationship. But they quickly go into pissed off mode again.
Ladies chime in whenever...
Now if she is talking alot about him then she probably is still holding feelings toward him, but that in a way is to be expected. She was with this guy for 4 years. But if she has alot of anger toward him in all or most of her conversations about him then he's toast and you shouldn't worry. If she tends to talk alot about the good time they had and in these conversations she tends to drift off sort of starring into space. Then she is just on a rebound.
Now this next part may sound vulgar to many but it IS very true. if they were physical and I do mean PHYSICAL, then if you and her are getting to that point and it come to that. You better do her like Superman on Viagra. In every way every style every everything. Then she will be saying, "EX? EX who?" Hell she won't even remember his name.
O.K. fun's over... but you'ld be suprised as to how that works every time. Then ya better keep it that way.
If you think that you could be with this girl for a long time, then plain and simply treat her with respect, make her feel wanted loved and listen... listen to everything she says. Pay attention, to her body language, her movements rite now dictate how she wants to be treated. She is gonna be tellin you alot with her looks, her movements and even when she tells you certain things you're gonna have to really listen to see if she is saying something else at the same time. Not always is it what they say that is what they want. Confused yet? Welcome to the world of understanding a woman. Especially a woman that has been emotionally hurt in a long term relationship.