Ya know, some women spend enough time in the bathroom, putting on their makeup, fussing with their hair for 45 minutes, and whatever else, I'm not sure if I'd say the prob is they don't do enough to keep themself looking young. Contrast this to the amount of time a guy spends in the bathroom every morning
These are some of the things I wonder however:
* Why is it that some women seem to fall in love with a guy for x, y, and z. And yet after they're married, x, y, and z can be the very things that annoys her. All of a suddent the thing one's fallen in love with becomes the very thing they detest and can be a source for many arguments?
* If the whole idea, is loving the man one thinks they can mold someone into, rather then the person they are, what's the point? People aren't pieces of clay or marble, to be molded and chissled in someone elses image of who one should be. How about a little honesty on whether they really love the person before them, or if their only love is for some ideal they've built up in mind, which might have no part with the reality of the other person? Expecting that another must change, or that one has the right to force others to become their own fantasy of what they should be, is rather unreasonable, IMO...
Throw in here, the number of times, one who has left an x, or as unfortunate as it is, has lost a long lost spouse, but then expects this new person be be the perfect replacement for the lost love... All of a sudden, one can be compared to so and so, with a why don't you be more like so and so, rather then an acceptance for who the person is. Now, if a lost love is lost due to death or something of the sort, that's sad and unfortunate, but trying to turn someone into their late husband isn't the answer. Taking the time, to grieve and to come to grips with one's loss, and then not rushing in until one is ready for a relationship
with another person could be so much better in the end.
* How about the analogy, that when it comes to money or things, many can view things as there is mine, and there is ours, but there is no yours. If sacrifices are to be made, or one is to do without, it's always the thing you want, but never the thing I want.
As some people have joked, with many a wife, if it's something I want, it's mine, if it's something we need it's ours, but if it's something you want it's frivalous spending
All of this can also come to, "we agreed upon", when no mutual agreement might actually have been made.
* Or how about this one?
wife: You don't love me
husband: What?
wife: What am I thinking right now?
husband: Umm, I don't know? Why don't you tell me.
wife: You don't love me, or you'd just know what I'm thinking every minute of the day.
husband: I'm sorry, I'm not psychic.
wife: Don't give me that, you don't love me, or you would be able to read my mind.
This can be right up there with the people who call tech support, expecting that because "you are the expert in computers", you must know exactly what is wrong with their machine despite having not seen the thing, and having no idea what they are actually looking at on their monitor. It's further expected, that without them having to say a word to help diagnose the problem, someone on the phone over 2,000 miles away should be able to work some voodoo, and make it miraciously work with no info provided. I suppose a crystal ball and a magic wand could be tools of the trade for some :laugh: And yet in another sense, it can be worse, as it isn't some stranger at the other end of the line, but rather a spouse one is living with...
I've had some people say, "yeah, my wife tries to argue that if we love each other, we should "be on the same wave length" and hence know each other's thoughts at all times. I try to explain that I'm not psychic and if something is bothering her, I can't help unless she explains it to me. But it does no good. I usually have to wait till she calms down, and then explain to her 'I'm sorry, but I'm not psychic. And what you're asking here is kinda impossible' If something's bothering you, I can't really be expected to just know your thoughts, without so much as a word given."
Through in arguments about how one squeezes a tube of tooth paste, and some other such reasons people can end up in a divorce and UGH!!! I hope to gawd, I could find someone, where I wouldn't have to go through all of this
