The Girlfriend Problems Thread

gonaads

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Mooo, you and this girl started talking and hangin out together for about a month now, yes? You are also dating her, has there been any physical contact between you two? I mean like serious kissing and or heavy petting?

The reason why I ask is... I WANT DETAILS!!!... no no, just funnin. The reason is because if you both are into each other then go for it and stay with her. Your friend is all pissed about it because he was with her for 4 years and even though he dumped her he still thiunks that she is his. He is also upset because you are his friend and he thinks that you shouldn't go near her. He's full of crap. He shouldn't have cheated on her if he was soooo into her. His lose.

But 1 word of advise to know if she is really interested in you and not on the rebound. Pay attention to all the conversations you two have, does she talk about her ex/your friend an exagerated amount of does he just come up in conversations on occassion? When she does talk about him, is it in a angry sort of way or is it a bit of both? Reason is that men and women will talk about their ex in a bad angry way but at the same time in a kinda loving way when there's something still there, as in feelings for them. Women will talk about them more than men. Men are dogs and bad mouth all ex girlfriends no matter what. Then they get all huffy and pissed when they see them with someone else, especially a friend. But women are different, they will talk about them in a bad way mainly when they get cheated on by their ex boyfriends and will be very very harsh as to the way they talk about them. If they just get dumped they are pissy about it and will bad mouth them but then they get all emotional and break down a bit (crying and such). Some, even if they were cheated on will get emotional, especially when it was a long term relationship. But they quickly go into pissed off mode again. :D

Ladies chime in whenever... :p

Now if she is talking alot about him then she probably is still holding feelings toward him, but that in a way is to be expected. She was with this guy for 4 years. But if she has alot of anger toward him in all or most of her conversations about him then he's toast and you shouldn't worry. If she tends to talk alot about the good time they had and in these conversations she tends to drift off sort of starring into space. Then she is just on a rebound.

Now this next part may sound vulgar to many but it IS very true. if they were physical and I do mean PHYSICAL, then if you and her are getting to that point and it come to that. You better do her like Superman on Viagra. In every way every style every everything. :D Then she will be saying, "EX? EX who?" Hell she won't even remember his name. :p

O.K. fun's over... but you'ld be suprised as to how that works every time. Then ya better keep it that way. :D

If you think that you could be with this girl for a long time, then plain and simply treat her with respect, make her feel wanted loved and listen... listen to everything she says. Pay attention, to her body language, her movements rite now dictate how she wants to be treated. She is gonna be tellin you alot with her looks, her movements and even when she tells you certain things you're gonna have to really listen to see if she is saying something else at the same time. Not always is it what they say that is what they want. Confused yet? Welcome to the world of understanding a woman. Especially a woman that has been emotionally hurt in a long term relationship.
 
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Tittles, I will tell you my relationships, 1 year exactly (my first love) and 6 months, 3 different women then now 13 years.

You're 15 you should be thinking about positive things, like karting, learning, doing well in exams, watching TV sports, going to the game(s) pweeking up, having the odd wrestle with lamers. Last thing you need is some girl getting up the duff (preggers) and being tied down.

Once you have got a good career and moved up that ladder to you goals, last thing you need at your age is to be stressed out with relationship problems.

I bet your mum is younger than me, speak to her, she will tell you exactly what I am telling you. Off course your a buff dude wanna sow those oats and be known as a stud, gotta be carefull these days, go watch officer and a gentleman and you will see what I am talking about.
 

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Mooo, your friend is a dick. Of course, there are 2 sides to every story. I would seriuouslyt start thinking about getting new friends. If you like her go for it.

"ANYTHING YOU WANT IS WORTH FIGHTING FOR"
 

gonaads

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He's 15... :eek: ooooh shiit My post is useless. :p
 

Tittles

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how come u posted in here lee, insted of my thread?
 
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nads said:
Men are dogs and bad mouth all ex girlfriends no matter what.
Not all of us are like that, so I beg to differ on that point, you bad doggy.
 

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You think 15 year olds arn't active?
It's disgusting, but they are.

As for the woman/friend problem.. Stay with the girl.. the only person that is having a problem with this is your friend. Try to sit down with him and talk, calm words can go a long way..
Maybe he'll see that he is being unreasonable, if not.. give him some distance and some time.
 

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Lee said:
Not all of us are like that, so I beg to differ on that point, you bad doggy.

If you had a girlfriend of 4 years and she went out and boinked someone else and then dumped you... you would.
 
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I am a babe magnet, just I like to browse but not buy. I would be cheesed off, of course, but as the saying goes, 'plenty more Fish in the Ocean' :)
 

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Evil Marge said:
You never see us girl's complaining about our men trouble's :rolleyes:
Not to each other when the woman and the man are still together. You don't want to let the others have one-upmanship on you. :D

But as soon as the guy dumps ya or is unfaithful to ya... Oooooooo, he is this, he is that, that no good god damn... and so on (in between sobs and crying). Now if you dump him for whatever reason. Then the talk is worse 'cause you dumped him. But either way he deserves it. :p
 

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Lee said:
I am a babe magnet, just I like to browse but not buy. I would be cheesed off, of course, but as the saying goes, 'plenty more Fish in the Ocean' :)

Hahahaha... He is sooooooo moddest. :p
 
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nads, it's like this, if they don't have the respect for me I deserve, then they can go boil their heads, if they were to be unfaithfull to me.

I have plenty of Women that give me the eye when I am out. I have boyish good looks, plenty of height a good figure and think of Women as my equals. I am smart in apperance and I treat every day as it comes. I am addictive, I am sure that I am a bit of a heart breaker, but their is only 1 portion of me and that portion is taken for the rest of my natural.

The problem with most Men & Women these days is that they don't want variety, they lack suprise and romance, they get flabby, in a hole of the same kind of routines day-by-day, you have to keep that kettle on a low boil or relationships just become plain old boring.

I will say it again, if a Woman starts to stray then dump her, be finished with it, coz to me that is a sin. Same with a Man they think it's an excuse to dip their wicks, claiming it's modern, 'MAN' that is what Dogs do with their noses when in the park around other Dogs, we are Humans we are (or supposed to be) the highest in the food chain, the top in the mammalia ladder. A (to me and my gf) have a relationship which is sacred, that is why we are together as we respect each others space, we do have squabbles, I admit to that, but they are inmaterial. Work hard at a relationship and it will bear the fruits of life.
 

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wow what an great thread.. i wish i posted last week when deciding on if i should tell him...
i talked to my friend today after he called up the girl and yelled at her, his reasoning is "friends don't do this to each other.. remember our saying 'bros before hoes'" and i told him i didn't wanna drop him as a friend nor drop the girl so if he doesn't wanna be around me for that then tough ****, the friendship is in his hands..
the only problem is that we work together but as far as hanging out he can go do his thing.

instead of calling me up and telling me ****, he calls the girl and yells at her saying ( i will keep it clean) " f*** you, f*** dale(me), you can have each other" and hangs up.. so i consider him more of a coward than anything.. also the only time me and the girl talk about him is when he a) either calls and yells or b) trying to figure out how to tell him about us (but that is over)

and for the last part of your post gonaads ... Her and i have gotten to know each other really well.. the physical part is there but the emotional part is much more present. My friend told her i was an ******* with females (which i am from time to time, i mean all guys are) but i have the reputation because no one knows the good stuff i do(don't wanna look like a puss to my friends :p). Once she realized i am a good guy we both hit it off. now I guess he isn't that great of a friend if he talks **** about me behind my back on how i treat girls.... owell thanks for all the stuff, i am going to show this to her because its really good thread (for me atleast)
 

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yeah...ummm me and my g/f r thinkin about u know ;) and like i unno...she keeps askin her mom to be on birth control and she said she would but she still hasnt. I am kinda scared to use a rain coat (condom) cause i hear of them breaking and stuff. What should we do? If this is too much for all of u i will delete the post.
 

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TittleBitties said:
I am kinda scared to use a rain coat (condom) cause i hear of them breaking and stuff. What should we do?
Well if you can't handle being a dad I would suggest against it .. BUT since I know your going to do it anyhoo "don't be a fool, cover your tool" ;)

Also they don't break if you use them proper like. :)
 

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lol...well we kinda tried it once and yeah i wont go into detail but i unno...how do u now get them to break? maybe i should put like 2 on or somethin. lol. Its not a big deal tho cause me and her aint in a big rush to do it we r just getting ready and stuff.
 

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If you're questioning it then you probably shouldn't be doing it. That's a pretty safe test for most anything, actually. I'm pretty sure that you know what the best answer is, and maybe you're looking to us for some persuasion one way or the other. My suggestion is to invest your time together in other ways.

Ask yourself this question: are you ready to take on more responsibility in your relationship? I say this because there are responsibilities that inherently come with being sexually active, and there are even greater potential responsibilities. Think about it a bit, and don't let anyone pressure you into anything. :)
 

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