sendmail - should be simple, but I don't get it.

[Glaanieboy]

OK, here's what has been done:
I contacted X-Istence because I had difficulties setting up qmail, well it was setup, but it didn't work. I spoke with him on MSNM and it turned out that somehow qmail sent out the mail with as from:anonymous@server1.thuisnet.lan, the Wanadoo mailserver freaked out and said server1.thuisnet.lan is not a valid domain. Logical, since that is from my internal network. In the end I let qmail think that I was part of the msn.com domain, where e-mails would be sent out as anonymous@msn.com. Since MSN.com is a valid domain, it worked. But now the reply-to address was wrong, so I added a header in the PHP mail() function to send out mails from:glaanieboy@msn.com. I am still not sure what happened, I think it all has to do with the fact that Wanadoo (ISP) has blocked port 25, so I can't make my own smtpserver, instead I have to route it to smtp.wanadoo.nl. I'll play with this when I come back from school, see if I can find something.

 

[Glaanieboy]

Good, I killed qmail, it just didn't work the way I wanted it to work. Instead I installed smtpmail from the /ports/mail collection. According to the manual, it should be able to send out an e-mail to an external smtp, this is just what I need. But how? I have looked for answers around the net, but I couldn't find a manual with examples on how to use it. Instead I just did a little tryial and error myself, but it's more error than actual useable results. I tried this command, which, as I understand it, should work:

smtpmail -t [email]receiver@domain.ext[/email] -h smtp.domain.ext -f [email]sender@domain.ext[/email] teh body of the mail.

This should send out a message to receiver@domain.ext, via smtp.wanadoo.nl and the sender would be sender@domain.ext. The body it receives should contain the text 'teh ... mail'. But all it does is just showing the command-line options, like I did it wrong. But no errors are given and no mail is sent (I have received none so far and I did it 1 hour ago).
In the end I want to implement this in my php.ini file, but again, I can't find anything on the web that tells me how to, can someone point me to the right direction?