I think I know the answer but I promised I wouldn't ruin her marriage until I checked.... If a guy gets a bunch of IM's from girls asking when he is going to come f*ck them is there ANY chance its a "bot" or something? I'm of the belief that now a days people can't just send you messages through the service unless they are on your friends list. I'm certain that if someone adds you you get a prompt asking if you should accept, this guy claims they just appear on his list. And yet another reason I don't beleive the guy's "bots" excuse is because he claims when you first install MSN, it prompts you to allow bots or disallow bots. I know of no such prompt and even if there was one I don't know why anyone would say to allow bots, especially since this guy is apparently a super-techie. Fidelity is in question here so please clarify what kind of situation we have here. Many thanks.